by Lorraine Segal | Feb 20, 2023
Love yourself and don’t be a jerk is good advice for any conflict. Why? While I want my clients to see their contribution, to own their part in any problematic situation, self-blame doesn’t help you do this in any effective way. It actually makes you more likely to be...
by Lorraine Segal | Dec 19, 2022
Reflections: How did you do this year with conflict and courage? I’ve been reflecting on 2022 and the courage my clients and I have shown in dealing with conflict, inner and outer. As those of you who have been reading my blog for a while know, I write a lot about...
by Lorraine Segal | Sep 20, 2022
How did you learn to turn your mistakes into stories? This was the thoughtful question Alesia Grace Thompson asked me during my interview on the Mediate.com Great Reads Book Club. Alesia was referring to my memoir, Angels & Earthworms. This was a very rich...
by Lorraine Segal | Jun 17, 2022
I heard the term conflict transformation for the first time a few months ago, in a small committee meeting connected to my professional organization. I was completely captivated—I knew it was a better term for what I do and how I approach conflict than any I had heard...
by Lorraine Segal | Feb 13, 2022
The problem of perfection in conflict…How does perfection hurt conflict management at work? “The challenge is not to be perfect; it is to be whole.”—Jane Fonda I read this quote by Jane Fonda recently, and I was struck with how applicable the contrast of...
by Lorraine Segal | Sep 21, 2021
Bringing five percent more compassion can really make a difference in conflicts. What would happen if you could bring just a little bit more compassion and love to conflicts and disagreements? I think you’d be amazed at the positive effect. I’ve often talked...
