Invisible Rules and Conflict

Invisible Rules and Conflict

Invisible rules can lead to conflict. Are you unconsciously expecting other people to automatically follow your invisible rules? If so, you may be setting yourself up for unnecessary conflicts. Several years ago, I read a book about forgiveness by Fred Luskin. He has...
Don’t Over-Explain in Difficult Conversations

Don’t Over-Explain in Difficult Conversations

  Don’t over-explain in difficult conversations–it tends to backfire.  I’m going to make a generalization—Women and sensitive men tend to over-explain. We all want to be understood, and it is natural to want to explain our perspective to someone we...
Your rules/their rules in conflict management

Your rules/their rules in conflict management

 The zen of the gym part 3       Do you judge people for breaking a rule you always follow? I realized recently that I was obliviously violating one of the rules posted at my gym, while burningly conscious of the rules other people were ignoring. I know...

Moving from the Shadows into the Sunlight

  Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.–Ralph Waldo Emerson We have a choice Perhaps my biggest learning on my own journey to healing and recovery is that I have a choice at any moment, to continue to stand in a...