Lorraine Segal Blog

Managing Conflict with your Inner Critic

      Many of us have a vocal inner critic, who tells us what we're doing wrong, how what we're trying won't work, Many of us have a vocal inner critic, who tells us what we're doing wrong, how what we're trying won't work, how we'll never be good enough. Some of the...

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Setting Boundaries with a Workplace Bully

Whether the bully is your boss or another employee, setting boundaries can be challenging. But deference to a supervisor or professional respect for a colleague, are different from accepting persistent unprofessional, disrespectful, or abusive behavior that impinges...

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When Your Boss Is A Bully

I have unfortunately worked for more than one boss who was a bully. And since I started teaching, coaching, and consulting with individuals and organizations around bullying and mobbing behaviors, I’ve heard stories about many more. I recently did some consulting at a...

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Your rules/their rules in conflict management

 The zen of the gym part 3       Do you judge people for breaking a rule you always follow? I realized recently that I was obliviously violating one of the rules posted at my gym, while burningly conscious of the rules other people were ignoring. I know I’m not alone....

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How Yes/And Defuses Workplace Conflict

    So many conflicts at work and everywhere expand and linger because people believe there is only one right answer or one way to see or do things. If instead of seeing the world in narrow extremes of right/wrong either/or etc., you can shift to yes/and, embracing...

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Divine Listening and Managing Conflict

          Divine Listening.  I heard the term divine listening recently and thought it applied really well to managing conflict. Beyond compassionate listening or listening to understand,  divine listening incorporates even more. To me it means listening as if you are...

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