by Lorraine Segal | Mar 18, 2024
Habit and Conflict Do your habits affect how you experience and deal with conflict? The short answer—yes! Our habits, for better or worse, are part of what makes us human. And they can make life easier. When I stumble into my kitchen in the early morning, half awake,...
by Lorraine Segal | May 18, 2021
The power of story to shift conflict. The universe is made of stories, not of atoms. — Muriel Rukeyser Understanding your story about a conflict, and how to shift and open up that story, is a powerful force for good in the conflict management work I do with...
by Lorraine Segal | Aug 17, 2020
Fight, Flight, Freeze—that what neurobiologists say are our ancestral (and current) unconscious response choices in a threatening or conflict situation. I recently came across a similar expression in a spiritual recovery book: blaming, running, or freezing. In my...
by LorraineSegal | Sep 5, 2011
I recently read an article by syndicated columnist and distinguished pediatrician, T.Berry Brazelton titled “Use Your Words,” a now classic phrase that parents and early childhood educators use with 3 and 4 year olds all over the U.S. As I read the article, I was...
by LorraineSegal | Nov 24, 2009
The Burrito of Change How do we change habitual patterns of communication which lead to conflict at work or at home? We’ve all been there, having the same negative conversation with a co-worker or family member that we’ve had before, helpless to change the outcome. It...
