by Lorraine Segal | Jan 19, 2026
Hidden Resentments at Work? As humans, we are full of feelings at work as well as in our personal lives. But if we ignore these feelings or attempt to push them down, especially negative ones, they will leak out sideways with generally detrimental consequences. I...
by Lorraine Segal | Sep 16, 2024
How to Make Every Mistake in a Conflict I read a letter in Dear Abby the other day which demonstrated a lot of the basic mistakes people make in a conflict. This one was about family dynamics, but the analysis and solution apply to many workplace situations as well....
by Lorraine Segal | Jun 17, 2024
Us versus Them “We have met the enemy and they are us.”—paraphrased from Walt Kelly in the Pogo comic strip. How inclusive is your “us”? And how can you expand it? I write a lot about the power of the stories we tell about ourselves and others to exacerbate or heal...
by Lorraine Segal | Dec 18, 2023
Cooperation not Violence in the Real Lord of the Flies Lord of The Flies Like me, you might have read Lord of the Flies by William Golding when you were young. It is a grim story of a group of British schoolboys marooned on a deserted island after a plane crash who...
by Lorraine Segal | Jan 16, 2022
When someone or something hurts or angers you, is there a value in venting? Some social scientists and conflict management experts think venting is counterproductive, entrenching anger and resentment. However, in my own experience, venting can be valuable as long as...
