by Lorraine Segal | Apr 17, 2020
Impatience can be a big contributor to conflict, and an obstacle to effective conflict resolution. I started writing a post about this impatience/conflict connection long before so many of us were stuck at home, working or not, impatiently wondering when we’ll ever be...
by Lorraine Segal | Mar 14, 2020
Don’t over-explain in difficult conversations–it tends to backfire. I’m going to make a generalization—Women and sensitive men tend to over-explain. We all want to be understood, and it is natural to want to explain our perspective to someone we...
by Lorraine Segal | Feb 17, 2020
Are you waiting until relationships are broken to deal with workplace conflict? Tip: this is not the most effective way to deal with disagreements and problems! Recently I had a conversation about this with an old friend of mine who now has a handyman business. I was...
by Lorraine Segal | Jan 19, 2020
Overwork and conflict. Overwork can add fuel to conflicts. Are you feeling angry and put upon at work? Are you having negative interactions and conflict over relatively small matters? Overwork may be the culprit. I have had a number of coaching clients whose conflicts...
by Lorraine Segal | Dec 13, 2019
Reframing is a powerful tool to manage or dissipate conflict at work or anywhere. Our key to transforming anything lies in our ability to reframe it.—Maryanne Williamson I first learned about reframing in my initial training to be a mediator. When one of the parties...
by Lorraine Segal | Nov 18, 2019
Culture clash in conversations at work. Is it an interruption or a cultural difference? No one likes to be interrupted. But what constitutes an interruption can vary greatly by culture. If two people are relying unconsciously on different rules, it can lead to...
by Lorraine Segal | Oct 13, 2019
We have to make room for feelings and conflict at work. People frequently have a lot of confusion about the role of feelings and emotions at work. I was interviewed recently on this topic by Gabriel Cox, one of my wonderful students in the conflict management...
by Lorraine Segal | Sep 15, 2019
Love and tough love are both important in conflict coaching. Conflict coaching is one of my favorite ways to help clients resolve or manage interpersonal conflicts at work, or anywhere. While mediation can be immensely valuable, I find that mediation is more...
by Lorraine Segal | Aug 18, 2019
Workplace mobbing can make you feel crazy. Mobbing, also called bullying by a group, is all too prevalent in dysfunctional workplaces. It has many negative effects including impeding the productivity and harmony of an organization, causing health problems and PTSD in...
by Lorraine Segal | Jul 13, 2019
The Platinum Rule is better than the Golden Rule at work, because not everyone is the same. Golden rule vs. Platinum rule We’ve all heard the Golden Rule, Treat others the way you want to be treated. Sounds good, right? Be kind, treat people well. What could go wrong...
