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Reflections: How did you do this year with conflict and courage?
I’ve been reflecting on the year and the courage my clients and I have shown in dealing with conflict, inner and outer. As those of you who have been reading my blog for a while know, I write a lot about conflict transformation as a process, which requires courage, willingness, and persistence but never perfection!
Here are some questions I’ve been asking myself and clients as the year draws to a close. And, I invite you to think about this with compassion and tenderness. There are no wrong answers.
What were the conflicts and other difficult situations that came your way this year?
Take a deep breath and, if you choose, write or think about those situations. Then, you can reflect on your answers to these additional questions.
What did you do better or differently this year?
Accomplishments large or small all count. They could include a difficult conversation you handled more gracefully. Or gently turning away a savage inner criticism and affirming your worth instead of letting the negative message continuing to play on repeat. It could mean you practiced letting go of a resentment instead of hanging on to it with both hands. It could mean you tackled a task that scared you and got through it step by step. It could mean you chose to forgive yourself for a mistake and learn from it.
Bonus question—Were you a better, more curious and compassionate listener? This could include being curious and open to their perspective rather than judgmental, as well as accepting that there could be more than one possible story and a different truth.
Even if you did these new behaviors sometimes and forgot to practice them at other times, your progress deserves acknowledgement. Kudos!
Here are some of my accomplishments, mostly around inner conflict:
- In spite of my fierce inner critic telling me I couldn’t get a book published, I did. My memoir came out October 25th and I’m patiently working to market it.
- I overcame my fear of new to me technology, in this case Facebook Live, and, after a lot of muttering and practice, I presented at a virtual conference on a beautiful topic, Turn Your Mistakes into Stories (see link below).
- I reframed questions on a challenging podcast so I could best share my expertise.
I invite you to comment with your own accomplishments. I will share some of them in my next newsletter. And I always enjoy hearing about your successes. Questions welcome, too.
Lorraine Segal presenting Turn Your Mistakes into Stories
Here is the link to my FB Live presentation, Turn Your Mistakes into Stories at the Feminine Frequency Global Leaders & Healers conference
And click here to find out more about my memoir, Angels and Earthworms: An Unexpected Journey to Joy, Love, and Miracles and get notified about the upcoming ebook sale.
Lorraine Segal has helped over 2000 leaders and others in organizations and corporations communicate more clearly, transform conflicts, and let go of resentments. The goal: to create a more harmonious and productive workplace. Through her business, Conflict Remedy, Lorraine creates customized training and coaching programs for non-profit organizations, corporations, and government agencies and Sonoma State University. She was recently named one of the top 15 coaches in Santa Rosa by Influence Digest. She is a contributing author to the book, Stand Up, Speak Out Against Workplace Bullying. Her latest project, a memoir called: Angels and Earthworms, an unexpected journey to love, joy, and miracles, is about her transformation from miserable self-doubt to self-acceptance, true love, spiritual awareness, and right livelihood. Find out more about the memoir here. https://ConflictRemedy.com/book Contact Lorraine through ConflictRemedy to request a free consultation for you and your organization or to sign up for her conflict remedy newsletter and blog.
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Turn Your Mistakes into Stories
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