by LorraineSegal | Jan 18, 2016
Shoulds and expectations are a big source of conflict. If we have a clear, though completely unrealistic expectation of how the other person should behave, or what should happen, we can get ourselves in all kinds of trouble when they don’t follow our “script.” For...
by LorraineSegal | Dec 15, 2015
Do you ever find yourself acting (out) like your five or fifteen year old self? If so you may be affected by revertigo! Revertigo is the act of reverting to old patterns of behavior when around family or others from your past. I unexpectedly came across the...
by LorraineSegal | Nov 18, 2015
Misunderstandings, resentments, and differences can fuel conflicts in the workplace or any place. But the longer I work to understand and heal my own resentments and conflicts, and the more I work with individuals and organizations that need help with communication...
by LorraineSegal | Oct 16, 2015
A lot of people cringe when they even hear the word “conflict”, especially at their workplaces. But the truth is, conflict is a natural part of human interactions, and it won’t go away even if you close your eyes and wish really hard! The good news: There are...
by LorraineSegal | Sep 22, 2015
I confess that I have had a love-hate relationship with feedback. In my teaching and coaching, I am passionately committed to improving and growing. And, I always want to be a good spouse, friend, and colleague as well. Intellectually, I understand that getting...
by LorraineSegal | Aug 18, 2015
What would you do if someone secretly took grapes from your garden? Would you get mad? Feel like a victim? Blame the neighbors and call them thieves? Put up a fence to protect your property? Post angry warning signs? All of those are common understandable responses,...
by LorraineSegal | Jul 15, 2015
photo credit: via photopin (license) I had a short lived fight with my wife, Linda, recently that I actually feel good about, because it shows the positive results of my ( and her) long hard work on forgiveness. The situation: It was Wednesday, when my wife does the...
by LorraineSegal | Jun 15, 2015
=Can you forgive and accept the whole world? Several months ago, I began a daily practice of using affirmations from a Course in Miracles workbook. One of the affirmations was, “I forgive the world.” When I read this, tears came to my eyes and I felt deep relief. I...
by LorraineSegal | Apr 5, 2015
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.–Ralph Waldo Emerson We have a choice Perhaps my biggest learning on my own journey to healing and recovery is that I have a choice at any moment, to continue to stand in a...
by LorraineSegal | Feb 12, 2015
Looking back, my needs around money have always been met. But it didn’t feel that way to me at all. I bounced between vagueness, avoiding concrete information or action about money, and terror, that I would be destitute and never have enough. Ten years ago, I...
