by LorraineSegal | Nov 28, 2010
We all have idealized images of the holiday season–perfect gifts and the warm glow of togetherness. But the real stress of expectations and difficult patterns of interactions with family members (perhaps better loved at a distance) can set off our emotional hot...
by LorraineSegal | Nov 8, 2010
My blog has been a wonderful way for me to reflect on my fundamental beliefs about conflict resolution. Many times I would write a new entry, and then wonder uneasily if I was repeating myself. I realized that although I offer different stories and contexts, a few...
by LorraineSegal | Oct 23, 2010
We see the world not the way it is, but the way we are.—Anonymous How much do our expectations influence our conflicts? Recent studies about appetite and perception at the University of Bristol in Britain offer some thought provoking answers. In two different studies,...
by LorraineSegal | Oct 10, 2010
I love reading science fiction, because at its best it offers an imaginative window into our conflicts and possible solutions. In Factoring Humanity, renowned SF author Robert J. Sawyer explores the power of empathy to transform human relationships. In the book, SETI...
by LorraineSegal | Sep 25, 2010
Resentment of past injustices, particularly when it has endured for generations, is extremely challenging to transform. But with willingness and courage, some individuals and groups have been able to move toward healing. The Maidu Indians of California are one such...
by LorraineSegal | Sep 12, 2010
Finding compassion for another person we are in conflict with, understanding their issues, perspective, and struggles are valuable tools in resolving issues. But, offering ourselves emergency self compassion can be equally important in dealing successfully with...
