The illusion of making someone else change

The illusion of making someone else change

One of the most common illusions that new coaching clients have is that by working with me they can somehow find tricks or techniques to convince the other person to think and behave differently. It doesn’t matter whether they are having conflicts and problems with...
Separation as a Cause of Conflict and Violence

Separation as a Cause of Conflict and Violence

Misunderstandings, resentments, and differences can fuel conflicts in the workplace or any place. But the longer I work to understand and heal my own resentments and conflicts, and the more I work with individuals and organizations that need help with communication...
The Long Path to Immediate Forgiveness

The Long Path to Immediate Forgiveness

photo credit: via photopin (license) I had a short lived fight with my wife, Linda, recently that I actually feel good about, because it shows the positive results of my ( and her) long hard work on forgiveness. The situation: It was Wednesday, when my wife does the...
Forgiving the World

Forgiving the World

=Can you forgive and accept the whole world? Several months ago, I began a daily practice of using affirmations from a Course in Miracles workbook. One of the affirmations was, “I forgive the world.” When I read this, tears came to my eyes and I felt deep relief. I...
Five Tips to Let Go and Forgive after a Break-Up

Five Tips to Let Go and Forgive after a Break-Up

Learning how to let go and forgive helped me a lot after two break-ups. Neither of these was with a spouse or romantic partner, but they were deep and difficult and painful nonetheless. One was with a dear friend of several years, and the other was with an...