by Lorraine Segal | Jun 16, 2019
“Catch and Release”–a concept that can help us navigate conflict better. I heard someone at a community meeting use the term “catch and release” to describe how they turn their own thoughts from negative to positive. It struck me immediately that...
by Lorraine Segal | Aug 20, 2018
It sounds counter intuitive, but Inaction or avoidance can be a viable way of dealing with workplace conflict. When I teach introductory classes about managing conflict, I usually have students take a conflict styles inventory. Learning about your own style and...
by LorraineSegal | Aug 15, 2016
When disagreements at work are unresolved, one of the unfortunate outcomes can be long lasting workplace feuds. These can simmer and fester for years, infecting a whole workplace with negativity and keeping everyone stuck. I got to see a perfect example of a...
by LorraineSegal | Jan 18, 2016
Shoulds and expectations are a big source of conflict. If we have a clear, though completely unrealistic expectation of how the other person should behave, or what should happen, we can get ourselves in all kinds of trouble when they don’t follow our “script.” For...
by LorraineSegal | Feb 12, 2015
Looking back, my needs around money have always been met. But it didn’t feel that way to me at all. I bounced between vagueness, avoiding concrete information or action about money, and terror, that I would be destitute and never have enough. Ten years ago, I...
by LorraineSegal | Mar 13, 2013
Learning how to let go and forgive helped me a lot after two break-ups. Neither of these was with a spouse or romantic partner, but they were deep and difficult and painful nonetheless. One was with a dear friend of several years, and the other was with an...
